In and out of Love

hey guys i’m back lol and with a very unique problem that really has me baffled. i’m not that type of girl who chases boy (or girls ;)) i’m almost 17 and have only had 2 boyfriends (1 lasting 9 months the other a year) and i’m definitly not that girl who loses “it” at this age. that’s not the problem. i’m just telling u this so u understand that this isn’t just alil crush. i love him. i’ve known him for a matter of years now (3-4) and i will admit…he’s been around the block a few times. but he’s a good person and i trust him with my life. the problem is, his ex trapped him and now she’s pregnant (long story short) and i honestly think me and him are going to end up together down the road (by that i mean a while after i graduate…yeah, that serious) and i don’t know how to wrap my head around this situation. she’s refusing to abort, and i’d hate myself if i’d disagree with her (which i don’t) but to get to the point she’s a lying, selfish bitch with ALOT of problems, who is definitaly not able to raise a baby. so he (the guy i love-the father) is planning on taking full custidy of the baby. his only option is to join the military and leave for 1-2yrs. his aunt is going to take care of the baby tell he comes home. i am sooooo willing to jump in and help. my plan with this is to finish high school, go on to college like i was planning, and when he’d come back we could be a family. i have to problems with that. so my question is…is that the right thing to do? i love him. and i already love this baby. i can’t see life without him. and i’m not just saying that, he’s my best friend…am i thinking right? basically, i want to live the life i want, but what if everyone disapproves? i want to live a life i’ll be proud of, not a life they’ll all be proud of (aka, parents, family, friends…) but still. is this the right thing to do?

Rinjii answered:

it’s complicated. we haven’t talked about US but he knows i love him and i know he loves me, we’re just not saying it cuz for one he’s not ready to jump right into a new relationship. this women really hurt him, but he knows i’m waiting for him. it’s really weird, it’s like we are already together, cuz we act like we are, but it’s just not spoken. i don’t know how to explain our relationship. i’m sure once the mother gets closer to the due date me and him will have everything planned, but for right now i just don’t know how to dodge all the ‘what are you doing?’ ‘your to young’ bla bla bla bla stuff.
and thank u for the compliment.

atula answered:

if you are so dead sure that you want to do this..I think it is your right and you are doing right…you have a big heart considering you are ready to be the mother of a child who isn’t yours..and you are absolutely ok with everything..just curious…is it your own plan or have the two of you givenserious thought about this kind of future…actually the three of u bcoz the child’s mother should also be willing to give her child away to the father…think seriously about it…it seems like the right thing to do as far as the planning in concerned but in reality there may be many hurdles and be ready to tackle them too.