http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick Having love trouble? Fell in love with someone, and now all is a mess? This is the place for you. This is also the place for you, if you're still suffering after a bad break up or if you're experi... http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20635-p-i-never-had-a-lot-of-things-and-comfort-in-the-l I never had a lot of things and comfort in the life. I’m disconnected with my family I never talk with my father and with my brother. I talk with my mother, but very seldom now and only in chat she lives very far from me. I don’t have a lot of money and no one can help me if I have troubles with it, but only my few good friends. I don’t have a real home. I don’t have a place where I can come back and feel safe. I rent rooms here or there, or stay at places of my friends if I’m out of the money. I live out of my country. I’m 24. Couple years ago I left my home town and came to EU for studying. There, I met a guy who I love so so much. He is from Pakistan, and he was engaged to a woman who he met only 5 times before (very common practice in his country!). In spite of his relationship status, our differences in culture, religion etc, we fell in love and started to date. It was continuing secretely all these 2 years and brought me a lot of happiness and a purpose in the life. He changed me a lot in a good way. With him I realized one important thing there is only love that you need to be happy! Nothing else matters. I stopped caring about money and comfort that I didn’t have for last times and that I always wanted to have. I stopped caring about having a home. I was just simply happy with my beloved and he was my home and my treasure. I got used to him too much. He was like drugs. Until the last moment, I was bearing a hope that he will cancel his engagement. When we were together in EU, he was caring about me, he was loving me and I could feel that. And it made me hope. But now he came back to his country and recently he told me that we can’t be together, that this marriage is his duty, and he does not want to destroy the connections between 2 families. He told me that he does not want to hurt so many people and also to destroy life of that girl that he is engaged to. On my questions: what about me? He was just apologizing and repeating that I’m strong, I will stand. He also said that we can always talk and be in contact, ‘be friends’ etc’ I never cried so much. I was feeling lost, empty and betrayed. I don’t have anyone else who loved (-s?) me so much, and he really loved (-s)! Another realization was that he became my whole world. He is my only life. I don’t have anyone else here who could be so close to me, but only him. I feel complete with him, a real person, I didn’t hate myself anymore When with him, I don’t care about anything in the world even if problems do exist, they are so miserable. And now, I’m just losing him. I’m sure that after coming back his family influenced and treated him a lot about this marriage. So, I even don’t blame him in anything and kind of understand (or am I just a silly girl?). We still talk almost everyday in skype, and he still tells me that he loves me and misses me a lot. I’m very confused.. right now it’s difficult to believe him again, but, I think, I believe to his... http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20635-p-i-never-had-a-lot-of-things-and-comfort-in-the-l 2010-09-03 20:47:03 UTC Victoria R http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20611-p-i-was-told-that-i-8217-m-different-because-i-mak I was told that Im different because I make choices with my head and not my feelings. It sounds like a good thing but I think I drove someone away because of the choices I made I do my best to base my decisions on whats best for that person, ignoring how I feel about this person. And its caused some people to believe false things about me they accuse me of all these things and I start to believe it. How do I change the way I think? Is it really bad to think with your head instead of your heart? Or do I just do both? Im so confused. http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20611-p-i-was-told-that-i-8217-m-different-because-i-mak 2010-08-31 16:34:58 UTC Sally H. http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20590-p-so-has-anyone-here-been-in-a-relationship-with-a so has anyone here been in a relationship with an Italian man, who could shed some light ? http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20590-p-so-has-anyone-here-been-in-a-relationship-with-a 2010-08-23 14:42:08 UTC Kathleen Wynne http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20556-p-so-i-8217-m-tired-of-being-in-a-relationship-wit So Im tired of being in a relationship with my boyfriend. Hes a really big jerk, and I dont feel the butterflies I love so much. I love the feeling of developing interests with a person, but Im afraid to be alone, and Im scared if we break up no other guy will want me. Ive been through a lot so yeah. http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20556-p-so-i-8217-m-tired-of-being-in-a-relationship-wit 2010-08-17 08:03:21 UTC Karissa http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20555-p-well-lets-start-by-saying-i-fell-head-over-heels well lets start by saying i fell head over heels in love with this girl problem is that iam friends with her boyfriend and his mom has told me that she wants me but i cant i too in love i would do anything for this girl she makes me smile laugh i injoy very much being around her i also have a girlfriend that i only see once in a blue moon because she is taking care of her mother anyone have any sugestions on what i should do ? http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20555-p-well-lets-start-by-saying-i-fell-head-over-heels 2010-08-18 03:54:23 UTC bob is spelled backwards http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20541-p-i-fall-in-love-a-lot-i-can-8217-t-help-it-i-love I fall in love a lot. I cant help it. I love the feeling. I dont want to though. How can I stop falling? http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20541-p-i-fall-in-love-a-lot-i-can-8217-t-help-it-i-love 2010-08-20 05:27:08 UTC Karissa http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20532-p-i-loved-her-still-i-am-in-love-but-she-never-car I loved Her. still I am in love. But She never cares about My feelings. Then Why should I. I dont Know Whos part is correct. http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20532-p-i-loved-her-still-i-am-in-love-but-she-never-car 2010-08-13 20:09:30 UTC phoenix7 http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20525-p-i-8217-m-a-university-student-from-the-united-ki Im a University student from the United Kingdom and I will be starting my second year of study in September. Recently me and my girlfriend (who also attends the same Uni) decided to move in together. We signed all the contracts way back in March, paying all the deposits and etc Months past and I was starting to feel this was itlike Ive found the one. I was excited about moving in with her, she was smart, kind and love spending time with her. I thought the feeling was mutual and she seemed to be looking for to it too, perhaps even more than me. To cut the long story short, we ended up moving in on the 1st of this month and everything seemed great fora few hours. By night time she was wailing and crying, saying she was ill. I tried to comfort her, but she wouldnt have any of it. So I decided to sleep on the couch that night, just to give her space. In the morning, she had a really bad attitude and snapped at me over the tiniest of things. She broke down in tears again and stormed out of the house late morning. A few minutes later she text me saying she would be staying at her parents (they live just outside the city, so she can commute). I asked her if it was me and she said it wasnt. She came back to get some over night stuff an do wouldnt even speak to me about it. The next day, she said she wouldnt ever move back in as my parents had got quite upset with her family over the situation. She keeps on reassuring me that I havent done anything wrongsaying that it was probably because shes too immature and couldnt handle that level of commitment. Im hurt as I really loved her, with all my heart and I just now feel that Im such an awful person that even the person who says she loves me cant even live in the same house as me for 24 hours. I begged her to give it another go, but all I got over the phone was I dont want to She moved out officially a few days later. Since then she has pressuring to make a decision about a tenant or me moving outwhich appears to me that all she cares about is money, not me So Im currently left in this house alone. I cant afford the rent by myself and I really dont want to live with a stranger. I had other offers earlier in the year, but she was adamant about us just getting a place by ourselvesI even made her swear she wouldnt so this too me. My girlfriend still wants to be in a relationship with me, but I dont know if I can ever trust her again. My parents want me to transfer to a similar Uni back home and complete my studies there. Whilst my friends just think its a minor set back and that we can start over with a clean slate Im not going to change in year or twos time, she knew everything their is to know about me. How wont I know in a few years time when we decide to move in again, that she wont do this again? I come from a family that firmly believes in fate, my mum believes that my grandma will watch over me. I know this will sound stupid to some of you, but I flipped a coin 10 times and asked my Grandma to guide i... http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20525-p-i-8217-m-a-university-student-from-the-united-ki 2010-08-17 02:34:33 UTC Peter Collins http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20504-p-i-am-a-straight-male-and-i-fancy-women-but-i-spa I am a straight male, and I fancy women, but I REALLY want to be a girl, as in wanting to have a sex change but still be attracted to girls. Is this normal and what does it mean? http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20504-p-i-am-a-straight-male-and-i-fancy-women-but-i-spa 2010-08-12 08:41:52 UTC meurig http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20455-p-i-fell-in-love-with-2-people-and-they-both-hate- i fell in love with 2 people and they both hate each other and in stuck in the middle of it. what should i do? http://helpme.com/labs/lovesick/questions/20455-p-i-fell-in-love-with-2-people-and-they-both-hate- 2010-08-01 20:17:20 UTC Janine Lester