Karolina asked 02/11/2010:
i am not Gay, but i really like this one girl, i lived at a shelter when i was 17, and she worked there as a staff ( A SUPERVIOSOR), i am 19 now and i do not live there anymore but i definiltly want to meet her, she only knows me as a resident there but not anymore because i dont live there anymore, its been 2 years now and i havent seen her,one of my frinds still lives at that shelter and that girl still works there, so it seems that the only way for me to contact that girl is by asking my frind to ask her (the girl) for her email, but i am really shy for her to know that i am interested in her, is that the right way for me to start talking to her, oh, and the reason i didnt talk to her back when i was living there, is because i was living there at the time so i couldnt do that and it would be even more embarrasing… so i want to ask my frind if she can get her email, but is thatthe right thing to do?, does that mean i am stalking her? bacause i dont wanna do that oh and by the way she is a lesbian and she has a girlfrind rigt now my frind told me that. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2 answers
gemz answered:
Just do whatever. Meet her see what happens. But be careful coz you said she is in a relationship. Don’t listen to these people who are telling you what you are and how you feel. You could be gay, could be bi, could be a phase. But don’t let anyone decide that one for you.
JadeDC answered:
I’m confused. you say aaren’t gay but you’re interested in her? or is that just friendly interest? if so then just go ahead and introduce yourself to her, instead of sending a third party to get her email. if you are interested romantically its okay too, but don’t tell her at once that you like her. maybe you should return to the shelter a few times, pretend to be visiting, volunteering, whatever just close the gap abit by having some common ground. then start to talk to her gradually, at first it’d be all business-like but as you get used to each other you can become closer friends. as for that “i like you” leap, wait till you guys are close friends first and make sure she’s single. you won’t want to be a third party. if she’s not, and has that girlfriend like you say, you’ll find that just being a close friend to her is rewarding enough.
I’m speaking from experience. I’m in love with one of my closest friends but she’s straight. haha.