spicyoreo asked 03/08/2010:
Thanks, and I have tried the okay mom and yes and stuff. it works sometimes. >-Sometimes-< still waiting for the great news that isn’t coming. ]= She yells at me for no reason. My brothers grades are worse than mine and to him she is just like okay well you need to bring em up. With me she will yell at me and everything. She has no idea… no clue about anything. I can’t tell her either cuz she’ll just be a itch about it. She thinks everything is about her, everything has to go her way or no way. She grounded me for 2months just because I had fun on a FRiDAY! FRiDAYYYYYY! she told me that I shouldn’t have been out that late (7pm) and that im grounded. What the hell kind of crap is that? She gets mad over NOTHiNG. She is supposed to be part of my homework and she is just like no do it yourself. When it specifically says…. have one of your parents work on this with you. It’s a persuasive writing assignment/project thing. What do I do?
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another friend answered:
Sounds like she’s trying to control you…when she can’t it frustrates her. She hasn’t learned to give you freedom. Have you ever asked her about her childhood? Sometimes hearing the stuff in her life can help you understand why she acts the way she does now.
Also, sit down with her -at a time when you’re NOT angry- to go over some common goals, rules, etc.
e.g. If you get good enough grades you get a later curfew, or if you do these chores around the house, than she’s give you more freedom.
Make sure she knows that by trying to control you, she’s pushing you away and ruining your relationship with her.