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I’d suggest taking a step back. IF you live with anyone its never neccesarily easy, you need to learn what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour for you both and then agree on some boundaries. It’s usually the little things that bug us, so I suggest putting some time aside to discuss it like adults, go somewhere nuetral where you know it wont get out of hand, like a coffee shop and then rather than jumping in on the issues, start out with some positive stuff, talk to her about what you do like about living together and then move on to her concerns. Do some thinking about what you feel is allowable behaviour and agree some rules between you. If you are irritating each other you may just not be cut out to live together, or you may just need a few rules that will make living a bit easier. If you feel she has some valid points, (i.e. you’ve been wearing her clothes while decorating! : ) make the meeting in a coffee shop and you make sure you buy the coffee!: ) If you feel it is petty stuff(i.e. you have been breathing noisily :) and you are reserving the right to behave in the ways she finds irritating, then be prepared to say so, but nicely. But maybe try and find a way of scheduling the things she finds annoying, for when she is not around. It can actually be very constructive sorting out squabbles, and by having some boundaries you may find that life is just a little bit easier for you both. Hope this helps Roland

i doubt it. it might just be that he/she is having a hard time in her life and she’s taking some of his/her frustrations out on you. if things seem to really get out of hand, confront her, but don’t be all pushy about it. stay calm and collected and give her a chance to explain his or her self and then tell her what she’s doing to bother you. just don’t jump to conclusions and ruin a good friendship.