JadeDC asked 01/31/2010:
I found that i am obsessed with one of my friends. it did not start out this way and we were normal friends till something hit her hard emotionally and during the time i was there for her. Somewhere along the line there i guess i fell for her. i’m trying to control my feelings and continue life as usual but its getting harder lately. I don’t mind what other people will say but if she can’t accept me and starts treating me as a stranger and avoiding me when she finds out i don’t think i can take it. What should I do?
3 answers
gemz answered:
Be cool… I know how you feel, but don’t look at it as an obsession, coz its not. Its just the fact that you have strong feelings for, and care about a person. If you were to tell her, how do you think she would react? Coz it may be that you need to tell her. Consider your own feelings first in a situation like this, because you are the one WITH the feelings. You never know she might feel the same. But don’t have that maybe fact in your head, just concentrate on how you are feeling and how you are going to deal with it. Good Luck.
snowbelle7 answered:
Tell her. Considering the fact that you where there for her means alot to a girl. I should no i am one. You’ll never know if she likes you too if you don’t ask her! Go for it, man. The worst that can happen is she says no, even then it’s not the end of the world!
Snowflake answered:
You never know, maybe she secretly feels the same and is worried about the same thing you are?
Just tell her how you feel (when the timing is right) just be honest. If she’s an understanding friend, then she will hear you out. You can’t help your feelings.
If she does start treating you badly, avoiding you etc. then she wasn’t right to begin with, and don’t bother wasting your time.
But you may be pleasantly surprised, she may be hoping you’d say something so she doesn’t have to?
If anything goes badly, there are always people who will help you through it whether friends or family.
Good luck mate :0)