Katelynx3 asked 02/04/2010:
I’m Kate. I just don’t know what to do anymore. My parents r on the edge of divorce, they don’t even talk to each other anymore. I try to get them to be civilized and actually hav a normal conversation but nothing seems to work. My boyfriend says I can talk to him about it but he’s not even treating me right now I don’t know who to talk to. Does anyone hav adviice?
4 answers
FMEE answered:
You just have to go with it. You can not make anyone do anything that they do not want to do. It sucks I know but it is a fact of life. Just keep in mind not to pick sides because that will just make thing worse. As for your boyfriend just move on if he is not treating you right.
jimbo cannon answered:
I think you need to let them work it out on their own. Maybe you should try talking to them individually about it, but remember, you can’t change people, they have to change themselves. Whatever the outcome, don’t blame yourself, none of it is your fault. There are no “magic words” you are going to say that will make them best friends again. If they were meant to be and still love eachother, they will work it out on their own. If it is time for them to part, then you are going to have to accept. It will be tough, but it might be better. Maybe they would be happier apart and more pleasant to be around. You will still be their daughter no matter what, and life will change for you if they divorce, the best advice I can give you is to tell them how you are feeling, let it play out between them, accept the outcome, adjust and adapt and move on. This too shall pass.
Rosmea answered:
Maybe divorce is the best option. Do you think they would be happier together or apart? They’re making each other unhappy and if nothing else works maybe divorce is best. However, it is important to let them know how you feel, and they might at least be more polite to each other if they know how it makes you feel.
As for the boyfriend, I’d say dump him. Give him a chance to improve his behaviour and if there is no change, leave him
Good Luck,
Rosmea
Grey Cloud answered:
Sweetie, there is not a lot you can do about your parents problems. Might ask them if they would try to talk to a minister or something along that line. Also talk to them seperately and see if they will listen. Don’t depend on your boyfriend too much as he’s not really going to be much help.