Hani asked 02/07/2010:
I have a hard time making friends. i try to be nice to everyone and i try hard to make friends but it never seems to take and i get the feeling people just use me all the time because i do try to be friends. my bestie just went to china for a few months and she just came back. i think in a way i was hopng for everything to be just the way it was before she went but she has changed and i dont think i have the same place in her affections i used to. the people she spent time with are now the ones she calls if she needs to talk and they are the ones she has moved away to be with. i know travelling in a group even one full of people you have never met (as this one was) will bind you all together i just cant get over this feeling of being replaced or abandonded even. i knew she would have changed but i didnt think i would be forgotten about. she was my best friend and know i dont have anyone with that sort of connection. i feel a little lost…
5 answers
JACKZ answered:
then she wasnt ur real friend becuz if she was ur bfff then she would of been with u no matter what happens!!!becuz bff stick together no matter what!!!nd am srry to say this but thats a bitch for what she did becuz she could intrduce u to them but no!!!thats fucked up!!!!u should ignore her too nd hang out with peer boys
A broken heart answered:
hi i know what your going through. I want to be friends with everyone. So try and do that. Only be careful who you are friends with… thr wrong group could get you in a lot of trouble.
Grey Cloud answered:
Hmmm…. Friends are what they are. Some last and some fade. Just keep making new friends and enjoy the process of getting to know interesting people. You aren’t limited to a couple of friends, far as I know there isn’t any limit. Have fun making new friends. Don’t worry so about your friend, she sees you with a happy face she will come back just to find out why you’re so happy!
Snowflake answered:
Maybe, don’t concentrate too much on making friends, but let friendships happen naturally. As long as you are open and friendly (which i’m sure you are) people will feel drawn to that.
Your friend – maybe she’s just needed some time to process things.
Is there a chance you two could meet up and talk? Ask her about things, mention how you feel about it, ask how she feels about it.
She may not have replaced or abandoned you, she may just have needed some space, or time with other people.
She couldn’t just replace you with new people and never see you again, that wouldn’t make sense to either of you. Especially if she’s your best friend, it doesn’t make sense to just disappear and forget about your close/best friend.
If this has made you feel forgotten, you need to tell her – she needs to know how this has made you feel about your friendship. And you need to know her side of the story, too.
Hope all goes well Hani.