ajii asked 02/16/2010:
how it feels to be happy..?
my life is screw up and my main problem is because my mother hate my father,and so she doesnt happy,if im happy,but i do live together now,and it feels more like hell rathen than a family.what should i do?im not that strong,im fragile,and now my college day is over before it time,because her too..hhhh….go away seems to be nicer
1 answer
THE MOM answered:
Sometimes its better to give yourself space from someone you love rather than smother the love because of obligation and or guilt. I say this all the time you cant change them YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THEIR ACTIONS only your own. You can do what you have to do because you know you need to be stronger for yourself you cant help anyone if your dead or locked up in a padded cell. You could suggest some classes for your mother something she likes get on freecell or go to your community bulletin board, you cant hide behind your parents fear of being alone, its scary but needed to evolve. Promise what you can do call once every two days send a postcard everyday and a letter once a week e-mail every day just so they know you still love them you wont forget them and hey :) you gotta get out there to find the other parent for their future grandchildren don’t you?