serenityxx asked 02/08/2010:
So, it has been a quite awhile since I seen my dad and usually it never crosses my mind but today I thought about it because it was part of something I had to do. When I do think about it, I think of how uncomfortable he makes me especially the last few times I did visit him and how he convinced himself that I hate him. I don’t hate him at all, I love him I just can’t really express myself especially when he says it accusingly, in a depressed tone, or really puts me on the spot. He’s an alcoholic and when he drinks a lot, he gets really depressed sometimes and I just didn’t know how to take it most times when I usually never see him at his worst. I can’t imagine what internal issues he deals with from day to day and now I can’t find myself in the position to face him. My mother told me that he once got pretty down and feebly attempted suicide. He is one of the sources of my social anxieties, I can’t remember the last time I ever seen him completely sober and all these years, it just seems like the alcohol has been talking and no one can really see the real him. It’s been like this for a long while and I don’t think he would go to AA.
I would like to read people’s suggestions??
3 answers
Snowflake answered:
He seems unsure of how you feel about him. He might be feeling guilty or worried about his situation, and what you think about it.
Do you know what might be troubling him that is causing him to drink?
Can you talk to him about it? He might need to express how he feels, and it might be a relief for him if he can discuss it with you. He may just need someone to listen, and a chance to “get things out of his systemâ€. There might not be anyone else he can talk to (or that he feels comfortable talking to)
If you’re finding it hard to express yourself with him – it’s ok to let him know that you feel that way. He might find it hard to express himself too.
Let him know that you care about him, and that you don’t feel any hatred towards him – regardless of the fact that he thinks otherwise. You just want to listen to what he has to say, and if there is anything you can do to help.
JACKZ answered:
well jst tlk to him and tell him how much it hurts u to see him that way!!!nd spend more time with him!!ur dad wants attention i once was in that situation intill my dad stop nd he is doing better!!!nd were jst happy!!!!jst tlk to him
romeo answered:
Well if i was you i would tell him that you love him very much and that if he loves you he should stop because it is hurting not only you but also himself. (pleaseeee respond to my question im like gonna die verrrryyy soon)