Foxx asked 03/06/2010:
Ok. A while back i posted that i thought i might be pregnant. I am. I know it for a fact now. I’m 16. My boyfriend is 18. He wants me to get an abortion. He still has college and i still have school and college and we both still have our lives… but i see girls younger than me doing just fine with babies… WHAT DO I DO??
10 answers
prefer not to say answered:
Taking care of a baby is hardwork but completely possible. Ive had an abortion and honestly if I could go back I would,, in a heart beat I think about who that baby could have been all the time and just cry. There’s programs that could help you with insurance, formula, carseats and other sorts of other things your baby would need. And i know you care about your bf’s opinion but YOU’LL BE THE ONE who has to go thru with the abortion its a tough thing to go thru.
Meghan83 answered:
Can you afford to take care of the child alone? This is a possibility so keep that in mind. Are you ready to sacrifice your time and social life for the baby? Your kid will be with you (hopefully) for the rest of your life-can you handle that? All questions that you need to ask yourself. I think sometimes abortion is a good choice, especially for such young parents, but is it what YOU want? At this point, forget your boyfriend, he’s obviously set on one way to solve this and probably won’t be much help now or in the future. How are you feeling?
Betty Boop answered:
Girl to be honest it seems to me like your man is not really taking this relationship serious he just wants wants to hit and quit just like when you buy new shoes and what hapens when they get old? you throw them away….Girl your young but dont have an abortion a while ago when I when to the clinic I was talking to this women who had 3 abortions because her man wasn’t up for a big responsibility but she told me that now she really regreted having those abortions for the reason that now shes not able to become a mother…….think about it girl……
Kay x answered:
you have a lot of commitments and i understand that, but this is a human life you two are dealing with. i totally see what your boyfriend means but i dont think that would be the right decision for someone of your age.
please have the baby truly you know you dont want to destroy their life. you are their mother and the only one that can help them. dont abandon them now :(
but at the end of the day it is your choice and dont worry – whatever you choose to do it will not make you less of a person but i urge you to have the baby even if you put them up for adoption later it would be the right choice :)
good luck with whatever you choose!
:) xxx xxx
Kai lan marie answered:
okay well your views on abortion are very important. plus do you know for a fact and trust that your boyfriend will be there with you and for you no matter what you choose. I wish you all the luck in the world but please think about this. This is an actual human life you are dealing with and a lifelong commitment either way. just please be careful
hangin in answered:
little girl you are young you have some tough choices to make now boys come and go at this young age you have to think of you and your baby now whats best for you and whats best for your baby my mom made me have an abortion when i was 15 i made it thru it fine i’m 38 now with a 20,18 and 12 year old and i still think of the one i didnt get to keep its always gonna be in the back of your mind if you do BUT you have to think ahead whats best for an innocent baby have you thought about adoption
old dude answered:
Where would YOU be if your mother had been in the same boat?
prolly NOT posting that question amiright?
DarkHeart answered:
This…advice can’t be given for this, its one person disicion, theres no compromise between partners.
twistedwhiskers answered:
An abortion can screw with your head man. It’s forever. A baby is forever too. Have you told your parents? As hard and scary as it may seem—they would want to help you make this decision. It would be a good idea to talk to someone close to you that is an adult, and not a bias party like your BF because right now he is shocked and afraid. This is a major life decision, one not to take lightly, whatever you chose, don’t let it stop you from moving forward and always look ahead. A baby is a HUGE responsibility, if you do choose to have the baby you will most likely need help from parents or relatives, so I would definetly have someone on board that can be reliable as a babysitter/mentour/shoulder to lean on when you need it—type person.
One last thing, you mention these girls who are younger than you doing fine, perhaps you might want to talk to them ? See what their thoughts are? Adoption (open adoption etc.) is always an option too, a really really hard one, but it’s an option…
I wish you the best of the best of luck in your journey Miss Foxx!
Twisted Whiskers