question by annal05

My brother has been through a lot with women so I guess maybe that is why he is so tainted by love. I don’t fall easy at all, but when I do it takes everything I mean I really have absolutely no feelings for another. I just I want that with someone else, I want them to see prettier women and know they could have them but choose to be with me.

Here to my mind, we are talking about whether a guy can feel enamoured with a woman (or man) enough to have overriding feelings that dictate he puts them first and his every emotion is wrapped up in thoughts of that other person. I’m not going to go into much detail here – love feels different to everyone – we all put conditions on it – so it has many forms, and there are loads of online definitions I am sure. But love can consume us whether we are male or female. There are plenty of stories, novels, myths based on men loving so much that they put it above anything else in their life. Yet its like all emotions, if you havent experienced it, you dont neccesarily believe it exists. If your brother is of that opinion, then its a given he has not experienced it. Reality is what we experience and seeing as we all experience emotions then a realist must recognise love exists, if not in its unconditional form, then at least as an emotion in the human mind. Hope this is of use Roland

what? is you’re brother 14? I’ve been married for 37 years to the same woman. And I love her more now than when we first married. You have your up’s and downs but if both of you work at it you will find that you can love deeply and be loved the same way. Men are different though, we tend to want overt expressions of love and women seem to need a deeper more spiritual love. Really, there are no hard and fast answers as each relationship is different. remember, listen to what is said, but judge by what they do.

Boys and girls are different, from how we talk and how we act. So why is it hard to believe that we love in different ways? I am a man who is deeply in love. I would die for my wife, but ask me to sit in a crowded room to watch some thing I know she likes, would kill me, but I would go kicking and screaming like a child. But she would go to any sporting event that she knew I liked with out a peep. I tell her and show her everyday I love her (and I always have). But some times, even that is not enough. People are animals after all, and we all have free will. Some call it a destructive personality, some people call it boredom and some call it cheating. Looking for love is a basic need, when you have it you want more and when you don’t it is all you want. So yes, you must look for it and when you find it, you still have to work at it and not take it for granted, or it will keep on going by like a bus you were almost able to catch.