Iminamess asked 03/10/2010:
I am 39 years old and have lived on my own for 8 years since my partner left me. Those 8 years have been lonely and some times i found it hard just to get on with life.
For the past 3 months i have found myself getting close to a married woman that works with me, we talk, flirt, have fun and spend most nights talking on the phone till the early hours. I made my feelings clear to her a few nights ago and she said that she felt the same way. We met up latter that night and things just felt fantastic, i was on a love high. The following day in work, it was just as normal but we kind of stared at each other more.
The following night while on the phone, i asked her what were we going to do, she then said sorry and there was nothing she could do and this relationship could not happen. She still says she loves me and still spends time talking to me all night but insists that there cant be anything between us. Im so lost now, what do i do.
3 answers
zocha answered:
i now it may be hard but you must try and let her go don’t talk to her on the phone as that is never going to happen. you must let her decide if she wants to stay with her husband being the other person is never a good idea.
gemz answered:
Why do people do this? OMG. If they are married why do people let themselves get attached in the first place and don’t say ‘love’ coz if it was they wouldn’t already be married. Marriage = Love. What to do is… not feel sorry for your own selfish mistake. You were the one who was lonely and did whatever with this woman behind her mans back. How would you feel if you were her man? This lady should never have taken advantage of your vulnerability in the first place. But you continued it and now you dunno what to do? Am sorry if this sounds harsh. But you shouldn’t have gone there in the first place.
FMEE answered:
You are in an emotional affair. This will only end badly if you do not watch your step. She may love you as dear friend and this may be allowed by her husband but if she goes further then flirting she will be in legal trouble with you to follow, my wife had an emotional affair that may have gone further if I did not find out and if she did I would have taken her to court and called the dear friend and all his family as witness to the crime, and it depends on were you live an affair is a crime and I would gotten the house the kids and her to pay my legal fees and the dear friend would have also gotten a divorce and lost it all as well. So if you do not want to end up in court as a witness as to what happened and when you should just move on!!!