question by Stef

you have a responsibility to your son..and you would leave him for some transient pleasure? how irresponsible and selfish you are. you will do as you please, but, i can say without a doubt that if you do what you say that it will bite you on the butt. you will be miserable.

You are not going to stop, nor, indeed, should you. And you are already outed. But outside affairs can have many possible motivations not actually implicit, contrary to what so many of us are raised to believe. Talk to your wife. Tell her your feelings for her, honestly, whether you love her still or not. Face the reality that monogamous exclusive feelings simply can never be ensured for anyone by magical social contract. Discuss what sort of relationship you each need, and on what fair and equal terms. You must each be genuine and respect genuineness in return.

First off, are you absolutely certain that you are, in fact, in love and it’s not just infatuation? Ask yourself a few questions that might help you:
Do you love your current girlfriend at all? Where do you see yourself with your current girlfriend in 5 years/10 years/20 years/50 years if you stay with her? Where do you see yourself with your “love” in 5 years/10 years/20 years/50 years if you choose to be with her? Would you die for your current girlfriend? Would you die for your “love”? Will you be ok with everything negative that will come out of leaving your current girlfriend for another woman? Are you willing to go through your life knowing your child will most likely suffer some psychological damage or be somewhat traumatized from your leaving? Do you have any issues with your current girlfriend that caused you to even consider another relationship with another woman? If so, have you even attempted working through those problems with her? If there are no problems with your current girlfriend, why then would you even bother getting together with this other woman, let alone have sexual relations with her while you are in a committed relationship? You need to take a mini vacation. Turn off your phone and get away from EVERYONE. Even if it’s only for a day. I suggest maybe going to a beach or a park and just sit there all day. Relax and think over the situation. Think out the pros and cons of leaving your current girlfriend and think of the pros and cons of staying with your current girlfriend. Is this REALLY what you want? If you decide to go with your new love, you need to sit down and have a long and serious discussion with your current girlfriend. She has a right to know EXACTLY what’s going on and if she breaks down and cries and yells at you, let her. Don’t get mad and yell back. It will only make things worse. If she gets upset, let her. It will make her feel better and will make things a lot easier. Wait a couple days then go back and discuss what you guys will do about the house, your belongings, the kid… etc. Don’t yell, but instead keep a calm, conversational tone or things will get ugly.

Wake up and look on your side of the fence. You have a child your decision effects him alot. Have you even given yourself a timeout session? Its common In a relationship with a baby for both partners to become disappointed with real life. Thats why you see so many young guys with 3 or 4 different babies momma’s and a momma with 3 or 4 different daddy babies. Think right now your friend Bobby Joe has been hanging out alot and your woman comes up and says " Baby it’s not workin out i’m leavin you and goin to live with Bobby Joe and you know were taking the baby, sorry but I have been being attracted to him for 4 months now you know how it is. Later Baby" In your gut you got your answer just now how you felt when you read that tells you how you really feel. How can you all the sudden be attracted to someone you have been knowing for awhile?